It’s 6:30 am, I'm on a last minute trip to Vegas, and I’m sitting on a plane next to a guy who looks right out of Duck Dynasty! I'm pinching myself between I only booked this flight at 8 pm last night! What?! How did this happen? I’m a mom of two little girls and here I am, settled into my aisle seat set to take off to join my parents for a quick weekend in Las Vegas!
I'm 30 years old and I've always thought of myself as adventurous, but lately, that has seemed to change since having my girls. Instead of adventure, I seek more routine and happiness in the simplicity of the day to day life. Are there any mom's out there who can relate? So why am I on a plane? Good question! Simply, because I was invited, offered a free ticket down and said YES! Crazy, right?! (check out my top picks for 36 hours in Las Vegas)
So why did I take a last minute trip to Vegas? Even though I have an amazing husband and girls at home (who are being spoiled by their daddy while I’m gone for 36 hrs) I still need to find the balance of self-care and keeping that adventurous spirit alive in me.... even as a wife & mom! After my parents invited me, I spent hours struggling to decide if I should go! I went through the whole list of reasons in my head! "I have my girls to take care of. I’ll miss out on a weekend with them. I've had a busy week at work. I don't know if I can handle waking up at 3:30 am and arriving home at midnight the following day!"
There are so many reasons to say no, but I think the biggest reasons were guilt and fear!
A Mama’s Guilt!
Do you always feel guilty? I feel guilty if I run to Target after my girls are asleep for the night! I feel guilty if I’m cleaning the house and not spending one on one time with them! I feel guilty for enjoying any form of self-care because deep down I feel like I’m being selfish! How ridiculous is that?! Being a mom of two young girls (3 yr old and 11 months) is hard work!! Right, mama’s?! Whether you’re a stay at home mom, full time working mom or part-time in the office/work at home mom like me, it’s tough!!! Why should we feel guilty for taking some time out to enjoy ourselves?
A Mama’s Fear!
Fear can overpower your life if you let it! I don’t remember being very fearful before kids. I had no problem leaving for India and Africa for a month or moving to Australia for a year. No crippling fear, just excitement! So what changes the moment you become a mom? Responsibility! You become responsible for these beautiful babies who need you for everything! And then the fear creeps in! You may not know it at first, but over time it presents itself more and more. Fear about them sleeping and SIDS, fear of the car seat, fear of them starting solids and choking..... and the list continues! But that’s just being a mom, right? And ultimately we wouldn’t trade it for the world! I know I wouldn’t!
But when we let fear control us and let it keep us from taking care of ourselves, then fear is robbing us! If you have a good support system and the opportunity to enjoy some self-care, then take the adventure! Trust the people in your life to care for your family and know that they will be okay without you for a short time! Trust your spouse when he says it's okay to go! Trust that he wants what's best for you too!
So what does this have to do with a last minute trip to Vegas?! Everything! It’s about living life with an adventurous spirit! Taking advantage of great opportunities and saying, yes! Now, you obviously need a good support system and you can’t abandon your kids for a plane ride! I’m extremely lucky to have an amazing husband at home who encourages and pushes me to be more adventurous again!
Take a moment and ask yourself, "What does being adventurous look like to you?" It really doesn’t have to be as extreme as jumping on the 7 am flight the next morning (thank the Lord for frequent flier points!). It can be as simple as:
- having a girls weekend
- going on a date with your hubby and trying a new restaurant
- Spending a day hiking
- or doing something you’ve always wanted to do, but made up excuses
Take the adventure! In the busyness of life and caring for your family, don’t forget about YOU! As moms, our family is ALWAYS the first priority, but it’s okay to take a quick time out and refresh! Don’t forget about you! Be a role model to your kids about self-care! Show them that you can be there for them and love them unconditionally and still take time to enjoy doing what you love! Don’t let guilt or fear (or mom shame) get in the way! I believe we were meant to live big lives!!! That looks different for all of us, so take the time to find what that means for YOU!
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Comment below and share with me what adventurous things are you going to do?
I’ll see ya in 36 hrs! 😎 ✈️